In this episode, Chase takes a hilarious tour through the “Sportscaster from Hell” living inside his ADHD brain—from the museum of ancient embarrassments and the Google spiral to task paralysis, the ADHD fridge, relationship challenges and the never-ending apology tour. Then Chase welcomes back his ADHD Coach, Bronwyn Foley, for a deeper conversation about the incessant inner critic, shame spirals, rejection sensitivity and the impact of years of negative messages. Together, they explore how to pause, name the critic, separate “I made a mistake” from “I am a mistake,” ask for help and stop trying to “fix” yourself—and start knowing yourself.
In this episode Chase introduces us to the “Sportscaster from Hell”—that running commentary in the ADHD brain that seems to have something to say about absolutely everything.
There’s the museum of ancient embarrassments, task paralysis, the ADHD Google spiral, the ADHD fridge, the apology tour, the sleep experience…and, of course, the sportscaster who never seems to take a day off.
Then Chase welcomes back his ADHD Coach, Bronwyn Foley, for a conversation about one of the toughest voices many people with ADHD deal with: the incessant inner critic.
Chase and Bronwyn talk about where that critic comes from, how to interrupt a shame spiral, what to do when negative thoughts start piling up, and why there’s such a big difference between “I made a mistake” and “I AM a mistake.”
They also tackle rejection sensitive dysphoria, relationships, asking for help, exercise and dopamine, and the bigger question: Do you really need to “fix” yourself?
As Bronwyn puts it, maybe it’s time to stop fixing…and start knowing.
(:30) So what’s on Chase’s mind today? The “Sportscaster from Hell”!
(4:20) How do ADHD people see others?
(5:00) You have SO much potential!
(5:20) The humor defense…in the ADHD Courtroom
(5:49) The museum of ancient embarrassments
(6:26) So what can you do to help this?
(7:37) Meet Ziggy, Marcus and Solomon…Chase’s triangle
(8:03) What’s the productivity launch sequence?
(8:24) The ADHD cleaning and the ADHD fridge. Don’t forget the time estimate too!
(9:12) ADHD task paralysis…
(9:38) The ADHD Google spiral
(10:00) The ADHD relationship experience and the hero’s journey…
(10:36) The ADHD apology tour…
(10:58) The ADHD sleep experience and finally the sports announcer!
(11:42) The ADHD motivation formula fascination, guilt and cosmic energy
(1:56) The ADHD Calendar ledger
(12:20) The ADHD energy monitor and hobby cycle
(13:40) Welcome back Chase’s ADHD Coach Bronwyn Foley!
(14:20) Chase and Bronwyn talk about the incessant critic…what’s the first thing to do? Pause and name it!
(15:39) The ADHD Witching Hour
(16:34) What do you do to the ADHD arguing brain
(17:02) What’s the origin of this critic? By age 12 an ADHD kid has received 20,000 more negative messages
(18:20) What are some phrases one can use when the negative messages start?
(19:51) How to separate I made a mistake from I AM a mistake?
(20:34) Interrupt the shame spiral
(22:16) Why is it so hard to ask for help when it’s so easy to give it?
(23:50) When is the best time to fortify our ADHD recourses?
(26:10) How can you not overwhelm the person you live with?
(27:15) What are the questions an ADHD person can ask of their partner? Or each other to do check-ins?
(28:40) DO you have to “fix” yourself?
(29:35) Stop fixing and start knowing!
(29:51) What drives an ADHD person to want to be better/different?
(31:10) “Can I be honest with you”?
(32:45) How is the whole body involved in ADHD?
(33:25) How is ADHD defined…and more?
(35:25) Is exercise important for ADHD?
(36:15) The book Spark by John Ratey. Movement activates dopamine!
(37:00) What about true negative comments? What should we do when the critic is really using true facts?
(39:20) What’s RSD – Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria?
(42:29) You can find Bronwyn at www.bronwynfoley.com and bronwyn@bronwynfoley.com
(43:30) Final thoughts from Chase