Chase welcomes ADHD Coach Bronwyn Foley for a revealing conversation about the inner critic and why negative self-talk can be especially powerful for people with ADHD. They explore everything from rumination, shame rehearsal and predicting failure to minimizing accomplishments and seeing personal struggles as character flaws. Bronwyn also shares insights from a Duke study on reinforcement and unhealthy behavior, explains the importance of finding your “why,” and offers practical strategies for parents trying to better understand what their child's school day was really like. Plus, they discuss ADHD strengths, the challenges of traditional education, and how sleep and nutrition may affect ADHD. Most importantly, Bronwyn shares the good news: negative self-talk can be unlearned.
That little voice in your head that tells you you're not good enough, you should have done better, or you're about to fail—is something many of us know all too well. But for people with ADHD, the inner critic can be particularly persistent.
In this episode, Chase welcomes ADHD Coach Bronwyn Foley for a conversation about negative self-talk: where it comes from, why ADHD brains may be especially vulnerable to it, and most importantly, what we can do to change the conversation. From rumination and shame to recognizing strengths and building healthier patterns, this episode offers insight, understanding and practical tools for quieting the inner critic.
(:43) Meet Bronwyn Foley Chase’s ADHD Coach as she and Chase talk about the inner critic.
(2:14) How common is this and what is this voice?
(3:20) Why do ADHD folks struggle with this more than others? Let’s learn about the “default mode network” and then there’s upbringing!
(5:20) What are the most common types of ADHD self-talk? It is “I am what I do”. Then there’s rumination and shame rehearsal.
(7:12) What about predicting eminent failure?
(8:12) What about the “shoulds”? And…minimizing accomplishments?
(12:00) What about ADHD strengths? Adhd’ers strengths and amazing!
(12:53) Bronwyn recounts the results of a study done at Duke…about reenforcing unhealthy behavior
(13:49) What’s secondary importance?
(15:19) How does an ADHD’er fight this? Earn about “The Why” And how this is such a great tool.
(16:30) What’s surprising about how folks with ADHD view themselves?
(17:10) Do ADHD’ers see their struggles as character faults? What can they do about this?
(18:15) How do you find out how a school day REALLY was when you ask a child with ADHD?
(19:14) Hear Bronwyn’s idea of using layers with this child.
(21:14) Bronwyn shares a personal story of her child’s experiences.
(22:55) What’s the overall struggle with the teaching model in school?
(24:12) Bronwyn provides tips to approach negative self-talk. GOOD NEWS…it CAN be unlearned!
(25:17) Is diet an insidious enemy of ADHD? By the way... folks with ADHD are known to be low in Iron, Magnesium, Vitamin D, Zinc, Omega 3’s can celiac issues.
(26:50) What about sleep?
(28:19) Here’s a good sleep tip…lock down your sleep but don’t make it a stress event!
(29:33) How can you reach Bronwyn? Bronwyn@Bronwynfoley.com or text her at 312-620-5599.
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